A man recently sent me a message asking for advice. He complained that his wife of over eight years has been reckless with money. He said that he has been enduring her wasteful spending for years hoping that she would change.
But instead of changing for the better, she stepped up her game. His wife recently spent their children’s school fees on designer’s bags and shoes. She didn’t care about the future of her children. She just wanted to satisfy her selfish desires.
The school is threatening to send their children home if their fees are not paid by next week. This is the last thing this man needed for now. He is heartbroken. He told me that he regretted marrying her even though he knew she was reckless with money. He thought marriage and raising children would change her.
I have always said that men and women should make sure they are on the same page before they get married. Don’t say you can change anybody. You cannot change an unwilling partner. Marriage has a way of amplifying negative habits and behaviour.
Sometimes, men make mistakes in marriage too. They end up with women who become a thorn in their flesh. But because they have been socially conditioned not to show emotions, they continue dying in silence. Men should not marry the kinds of women mentioned below to avoid stories that touch in future.
If you want to live long, stay away from the gold digger. She will compliment you on your expensive watch, ask you what kind of car you drive, what you do for a living, and where you live. She is the kind of woman who will just suck your wallet dry and leave you immediately cash is scarce.
If the woman you are dating is only interested in your bank account, run away. If she only loves you after she has almost emptied your bank account, she’s not one you should marry. When you start experiencing hard times, she won’t stick with you. Don’t marry a woman who is only interested in material things, and how much of these things your salary or business profits can buy her.
Marrying a liar will leave you sad, confused and heartbroken. You won’t know where you stand with her. You won’t know when she will jeopardise what you have built over the years with her lies. A woman who constantly lies to you shouldn’t be trusted.
The woman who calls off dates, constantly changes plans and never keeps her promise to you won’t make a good wife. You can’t trust her to get things done. She won’t even be there when you need her the most. If you think this will change once you are married, you are wrong. Marriage to her will amplify her negative behaviour.
Marrying a negative woman is not good for your life. A negative woman is someone who finds something negative almost anything. She sees and says negative things about your family, friends and business partners. To her, everyone around you is trying to harm you. She is the only good person in your life.
She tells you your friends are envious of your progress and your family members want to kill you. It’s just from one negative feedback to another with such woman. Although there is nothing wrong with being careful in this world, living life with someone who is constantly negative will definitely affect your relationship with others. It’s not worth it.
The cheating woman won’t make a good wife. A woman who hops into bed with different men is not one you want to take marriage vows with. The last thing you want is to be in a marriage with someone you can’t trust. I’m a huge believer that people can change, but they have to make efforts to change and work to effect those changes.
If you have the misfortune of dating a desperate woman, you are finished. It will be worse if you just want to have a fling with her. She will make sure you live to remember her name. This type of woman may seem fantastic at first, until she starts talking about your wedding location, the number of children you both will have and the kind of house you will live in after the first date.
Anything you do for the critical woman is simply not good enough. Nothing seems to work unless it is done according to her standards. If someone says anything, she quickly takes it out of context to become some sort of insult or some reason to wage war against the world. This type of woman has plenty of emotional baggage. Marrying her will make you an angry and bitter person because she will bring you misery with her unending criticisms.
Marrying a woman who brings nothing but sex and orgasms to your relationship is not a good idea. She may be fascinating and fun to be with at first, but in the long run, you won’t be able to trust her decisions because she’s neither intelligent nor smart.
Most men get carried away by such women and when they eventually marry them, they come to know that there’s more to a marriage than great sex and flexible bedroom moves. They love the adrenaline and adventurous lifestyle of this kind of woman until marriage exposes their disadvantages.
If you marry a very jealous woman, be ready for public disgrace anywhere and anytime. This kind of woman sees every woman around her husband as a potential threat that needs to be eliminated. Every woman is her rival and she is ready to fight all the time for what’s hers. She doesn’t trust her husband too. He’s always hiding something.
I heard a story of a woman who trailed her husband to a restaurant because she learnt he was going to meet a woman. She didn’t care to find out what was going on between them. She stormed the restaurant and emptied a glass of wine on the woman and her husband.
It later turned out that the woman in question was a prospective client for his company. That was how he lost the business deal. His jealous wife cost him money and respect before others. It wasn’t the first time she trailed and disgraced him. She is a very jealous and possessive woman. Marrying her kind is courting daily trouble.
The clingy woman can’t go anywhere or do anything without the company of her man. She is one who can call you 20 times a day just to know where you are. She can drive you crazy with her clingy attitude. This type of woman will smother you with her presence by insisting that you spend every moment with her. She won’t allow you go out with friends either.
Marrying such a woman means you have no breathing space to do hobbies or pursue other interests. A clingy woman won’t allow you grow or improve. She just wants to be with you all the time. While this may sound loving, it is unhealthy for your relationship.