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No man is an island, neither is any woman. The creator has designed life for both men and women to blend and spend the rest of their lives together at the appropriate time. Both men and women need each other. Biblically, it is stated that a man should leave his father and mother, cling unto his spouse and be together, what God has joined together, let no man put asunder. But this narrative is not being upheld as expected. Various attacks keep attacking the union from all angles.
Sometime ago, a popular Nigerian Nollywood actress was at the British Broadcasting Corporation (BBC Igbo channels) as a guest on a popular Igbo quiz program. Among the many puzzles she reacted to was her search for a man who would marry her. She reinstated the fact that she needs a man to marry her without mincing words. She gave her specifications of the man as ‘Total package ‘and ‘Doctor’s prescription.’ She did not do anything wrong or illegal by looking for a life partner. Though she was also married at the time, her marriage hit the rocks.
On the same social media platform, another lady who resides in the Eastern city also made the same request of a man who would marry her. She was also divorced in the last three years and the court granted the custody of their four children to her ex-husband. She went along and praised herself for staying single and nursing the wound of her divorce. Now, she is tired of living the life of a single lady and wants to be married again to another man. She made her request on the social media platform too.
Interestingly, while one reflects on the cries of these ladies who are not alone in their request; they need the praise for opening up not minding the mileage of such requests on social media platforms. These two ladies are not alone in this situation. It is also the same case with the men. The single situation disturbs both men and women. Some could be seriously searching while they pretend as if they do not care. The ladies who poured out their heart desires should be applauded because many women are dying in silence in search of men who would marry them. Otherwise why is the side chick market blooming?
Now, the same way women desire men for keeps, so also do men aspire for women to compliment them. Coming together in marriage for both men and women is like a dog’s play; fall me and I will fall for you.
In a recent conversation with friends at a small gathering where both men and women contributed to the topic, it was discovered that both sexes desire and need each other. Even with the present various challenges in marriages world wide, it is still a worthy institution.Though some are scared with poor character conduct on both sexes, yet some are willing to go the journey while some are not. A friend who has divorced twice said he has handed-up and hung the boots. “One cannot marry the present generation of girls who would be in a marriage, yet in a serious relationship with her ex otherwise known as her bestie. Two Nigerian celebrities who were once besties, while both are in different marriages, they keep their steeze as besties. Bad as it is, you as her husband cannot question such a relationship, otherwise the marriage will break. It has become very rampant among the new generation of ladies.
In another development, Henry Ikeaku insists that once one loses his wife through death, separation or divorce; as a full grown man, he should remarry and be with a woman. It is not good to be a single man especially when parenting children. This shows that men are also in need of women.
A former governor who lost his wife remarried a much younger air hostess because he needed a new wife. In the same vein, a respected man of God went through the second missionary journey when death knocked on his door and took his wife.
Interestingly, there is a reason God created men and women and followed it with a commandment for the man to leave his father and mother and be together with his wife in matrimony. For once, men and women ought to respect this narrative. Couples therefore should tread softly and avoid some of their differences. Those who listen and obey the word of God always get it right. There are a lot of advantages to being together as married couples. First, one should not forget the formal recognition, financial advantages, and insurance policies, rights to next-of-kin-medical decision making.
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Happy couples socially and emotionally benefit from lifelong companionship, shared household responsibilities, and research-backed improvements in physical health and overall life expectancy. Having a lifelong legally committed partner reduces the risk of isolation, helps mitigate the impact of depression, and fosters a deep sense of belonging. Married people are generally happier, healthier, safer and more financially stable than singles. Marriage is also designed for purity. Both men and women face sexual temptation nearly every minute and from all directions. The bond of marriage gives the support to defeat romantic and sexual temptations.
Again, it provides an optimal, legal, secure framework for raising children. It often leads to better educational and emotional outcomes for the family.
Over time, research indicates that married individuals generally enjoy better physical health, lower rates of chronic diseases and longer life expectancy.
Unlike single men and women, married individuals typically pool resources, share living expenses and build more combined wealth over time compared to singles.
Now, someone might think when both sexes made their supplication known, it might probably yield a fruitful result. Afterall, the Holy Book says, “Seek and you shall find; ask you shall be given; Knock the door will be opened for you.” So, kudos therefore should be given to them for boldly stating their mission and not hiding under any false pretense. No one should castigate or look at them as lonely frustrated women. They are not.
So long brothers and sisters, it is not enough to make a public outcry, declare your interest and be naughty with the relationship. It depends on the type and specification of partner one is looking for. Some need fresh marriages, some need widowers and divorcees, all are in the market.
People who are in search of companions, are ready to leave the devil and its paraphernalia and be governable when the pendulum swings towards them. It is very pertinent to ask this question because most grooms and bride-to-be seem to be possessed, which manifests after they settle down in marriage.
Men and women need each other for a life balance. Marriage is an institution ordained by God and therefore should be respected because it has rules and regulations that make the actors live in harmony.
Being single is not a sin. A single man or woman can afford the immense offer of freedom, but it has its distinct challenges. One should not forget the common disadvantage of sole financial responsibility for all living costs, profound feelings of loneliness, and the absence of a built- in emotional support system during emergencies or tough days. Being single means one does not have a designated companion to debrief with after a long day, share milestones, or offer physical affection like hugging and cuddling. Again, every choice from career, minor daily issues, finances, choice of everything rests on the shoulders of a single man or woman.
There is a huge need for marital blessings. It is known that no one is perfect in a relationship. Two people who are coming from two different backgrounds might not find it easy immediately, but with time, they should settle most issues and let love rule. Biblically, the ingredients of the happy home are known by both.
Dear Brothers and Sisters, you have the right to need a man but search your hearts and need a partner earnestly. Good name they say is better than riches and wealth. Having quality character, sense of responsibility, peace, patience, love and respect have never disappointed any couple.
