From Charity Nwakaudu, Abuja
A relationship coach and expert has harped on the need to grow better homes for societal development adding that the society will be stable if it is devoid of divorces and failed marriages as fruitful homes was a yardstick to achieving a better nation.
Dr Jennifer Oscar Ifeyinwa stated this as she bags a Doctor of Philosophy in Leadership and Communication Management (Honoris Causa) from the prestigious International Leadership Manpower and Management Development (ILMMD), United Kingdom and Northern Ireland .
She stressed that good parenting and childcare would go a long way to ensuring a better and varile society that can also bring about stability in the country.
Dr Ifeyinwa pointed out that wisdom was key to ensuring better families and stable society saying that, “When there is understanding not even love yet is not enough to make a family stay together, but when there is wisdom and understanding, because the bible said wisdom is principal, first if you have wisdom then you have understanding, then you have knowledge of God, then you will be able to build a good relationship.”
She said that: “We should always know that family comes first no matter the amount of work we have to do, without family we cannot succeed, family is everything you need in life, if you succeed in your family you will succeed in business but the problem most people make is that they put their work before their family, when that job or business fails, which family do you run to? So family is first, it is a priority before any other thing.”
Speaking on the menace of divorce, the 34 year old Delta State born, noted that for the increase in divorce, when people fail to understand each other it leads to divorce saying that, “I tell people that there is no perfect marriage here on earth, a man from different backgrounds raised by different family and a woman raised by different family now living under the same roof you will believe with me that there are a lot of things to agree to and to disagree upon.”
Couples, she said, should seek ways to ensuring they settle their differences amicably.
She also said that when parents fail to understand themselves and put their differences behind them, children are thus neglected and turn out to be come vices in the society.
Furthermore, she advised parents to always keep tabs on their home fronts as this was the best way to keeping their homes/ families safe and checked.
In her words: “With out faith it is impossible to please God, what ever religion you practice you must believe in it, I believe that in society if we can have godly marriages good homes inturn we will raise responsible children and the society will become a better place.
“We know that what we are suffering from is because children are being neglected, they turn out to become violent, they become terrorist in the society because they were being neglected.
“But you know, I encourage both parenting for father and mother if you are privileged to have children they should work together because the bible said two good heads are better than one, you will agree with me that the man alone cannot take care of a family likewise with the woman, she can’t take care of the family alone. So you need both parties.”
Explaining issues on what the younger generation was getting wrong, the Relationship expert stated, “What is trending now is the ‘babymama’ thing alot of young girls because they have been seeing this things on social media, social media is very good, don’t get me wrong but at times it influences our youths negatively, you can see what is going on now, young girls on nowadays just want to give birth for a man without doing the proper thing and they start showing off as babymamas, there should be a stop to it because our morals are still very important especially for those children you want to raise, what knowledge do you want to impact on those children and what lifestyle do you want them to emulate. Be mindful out goals is to raise godly children.”
Further stressing that, “I want to speak to our society today, in as much as they think it is trending it is not oroer, what is wrong is wrong, the bible said a man and a woman shall become one not a woman raising her children alone as a babymama, so this babymama thing should be stopped.”