Expectedly, the revelation that the Director General of Equatorial Guinea’s National Financial Investigation Agency (ANIF), Baltasar Ebang Engonga, amassed 400 explicit video recordings of his sex romps with women, set off shockwaves across that country and on the internet. As the scandalous story spread, people burnt gigabytes of data to watch the videos. To put it mildly, what he allegedly did was monstrous, wicked and horrendous.
Going through sex videos which has been trending, one just wonders what sex means to some men. Who would have imagined that the innocent-looking Egonga was capable of the shameful, hideous thing he did with multiple partners, many of them wives and successful women in good positions. Overcome by shame and stigma involved, some of the women have already committed suicide.
Until the news broke and the videos began circulating, his wife must have been feeling good and enjoying the privileges attached to being the spouse of a very senior government official. At the time she accepted his marriage proposal, she must believed that she made the right choice: clean, handsome and well-educated. Watching him stride through the ANIF headquarters building, nobody would have thought that his dapper suits covered the demonic nature that lurked under the nice exterior look.
From the family pictures now online, the children had ajebo looks, clear evidence of the good life and jolly ride the family had enjoyed over the years. It is such a rude shock how he ended his career and crashed the joy of the family.
Egonga did not consider the responsibility attached to his office, a position that most of his contemporaries desired to occupy. He did not respect his office while he enjoyed sexual fantasies.
Now, check out his style. The thin frame of his luxury spectacles, wrist watch, Perry-Ellis’s shirt and a designer suit. I have also envisaged his daily style which would be a sight to behold. Give it to him, a man of style who is equal to the task. A dashing husband and worthy son-in-law most parents would approve immediately for their daughters; especially that he is a high-ranking senior civil servant. Many would love to be in his shoes. But behind all the wonderful qualities and personal achievement lies a heartless man!
I am personally convinced that he had a problem of poverty of thought content. Something was really wrong somewhere. Otherwise, how on earth could one man rattle over 400 women and convince them to be recorded while having sex with them? What was the essence of the record? To let it out one day or what? How could one believe that the high and mighty women which include minister’s wives, president’s sister, family members would fall for him in sexual romp just like that? Was he using voodoo on them? For that record, one of the ladies had committed suicide because she cannot bear the shame.
Shocking is the fact that all became blindfolded and never thought of the aftermath of their sex video in this social media age. It is a sign that something is seriously behind these love tango. I still do not believe that all women could be that mischievous. Nature did not create them to be so especially with their private areas. Even for women who try to cheat on their husbands, they do it secretly and carefully. There is no African woman who would want her frolic with another man to be in public view. Dignity is still a watchword for most women. Another twist in this case was that his office was the canvass that attracted quality women into his web. With his high workplace, good looks and power, he was able to bring down accomplished women. Poor women!
Remarkably, Egonga is not alone in this saga. Maybe, some people have not graduated to his status of recording and keeping sexual tapes, but most men secretly wear Egonga’s apparel. A certain high-ranking Nigerian politician once leaked the nude pictures which his ex-girlfriend sent him when the going was good.
Unfortunately, nudity and sexuality are not the only areas men operate as corruption experts. It is not for nothing that exploitation, poor governance and societal ills which have eaten deep into the fabric of the society are mostly done by men. Nigeria alone is a case study of financial recklessness in high places. Egonga channeled his corruption to sexual escapades while some directed theirs to other methods. Kidnappings and rituals are linked to powerful men.
I recall the story of a husband who serially had romps with the younger sisters of his wife. Though he did not record it, but it was shameful as ever. It left tongues wagging. From the grapevine, it was discovered that Jonathan (not real name) feasted on three of his wife’s younger sisters with their consents. Jonathan’s wife Lucy was said to be the bread winner and was always on the move to meet up with meetings, appointments and sales. She trusted both husband and her own siblings. On a certain day, a female neighbor saw Jonathan with his sister in-law called Anne in a very compromising manner and never opened up. Oga who is a businessman started this love tango with Anne as she was assigned to learn the trade with him. Both were matured adults who were enjoying their sins. While Oga’s wife was focused on her business, her husband and sister became Adam and Eve in her own home. As if Anne was not enough food for him, the hunk husband discovered succulent nature of Patricia, the second sister in-law and swung unto her immediately. Though Patricia claimed he threatened to throw her back to the village if she refuses him. Jonathan had his way a few times with Patricia, but she was bold enough to resist him the next time he approached her. She threatened to let the cat out of the barn before Jonathan withdrew his actions.
Patricia became a hard nut to crack, and he smartly moved to Peace the youngest of the girls and both collided in several sex romps. While Peace was studying in east, Jonathan made his travel very frequent for his evil machination with Peace. To think that all these happened for several years under madam’s roof without her knowledge is a story for another day. Now, is there any difference between Baltasar Ebang Engonga and Jonathan? All women slept with these men with their consents, just that Jonathan did not record and keep his adventures. But knowingly or unknowingly, it is recorded in minds.
With time, Jonathan’s struggling business crumbled and he was exposed sadly. How did the news break. It was service Sunday in a Pentecostal church; the pastor was moved in a powerful message that saw congregants in tears. Some started confessing and behold, Anne made this grievous confession that broke the Carmel’s back and the news went viral. It was talk of the town as both families were involved, deliberated on the matter and blamed the young sisters for eating the forbidden fruit. Mrs. Jonathan refused to leave her marriage in the presence of all these. Their mother felt her daughter was married to a beast. “A regrettable son-in-law. Dog that ate the bone on his neck.” Mama went gaga and cursed the living day light out of Jonathan, expected her daughter Lucy to leave her marriage because her husband is evil. Referring to her daughter, Mama said, “One day he will sleep with your own daughters.” With this, mother and daughter drew the battle line and became sworn enemies until mother passed away many years ago.
Regrettably, with the shame associated to sexual immoralities, men should be held responsible for most of the dirty games. Do not forget that men in powerful looks are always the architect to most of these corruptions. Not all that glitters are gold. It also takes gullible women like them to fall as their prey. There is no sexual wickedness that is not generated by men. Women just fall as a cheap prey out of ignorance.
Men, please let the women breathe.