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Let’s take our bearing from the Good Book, where it says that “a man who does not provide for his household is worse than an infidel.”
Now picture this scenario: a hardworking husband decides he would not be an infidel, not to talk of being worse than one. So, he deploys his energy, intellect and his acumen to do business and engage in other legitimate economic activities, to earn money to provide decent accomodation for his wife and children, keep the home stocked with food, pay fees in some relatively high tuition schools, buy a good car for Madam to enable her do school runs and other things. He also takes care of other relatives on his side and the wife’s side. In other words, he comes across as a responsible husband – the kind someone once said in the Sunday Sun “Adam & Eve” page that “wives are happy when husbands are responsible.”
Last week, I wrote about the “sexual doings” of the wife of Egonga, the disgraced senior Equatorial Guinea top civil servant whose alleged sex videos service the internet on fire as people burnt massive gigabytes of data to watch them on YouTube.
After reading the piece, some of my readers reacted ‘angrily’ and sent me SMS and practically accused me of bothering about the spec in the eye of Egonga’s wife in faraway Equatorial Guinea and ignoring the log of wood in the eyes of married Nigerian middle class women in Lagos, who reside in beautiful, well furnished homes located in areas like Magodo, Festac Town, Okota, Amuwo-Odofin, Oke-Afa, among others. areas of Lagos State.
I was shocked by what I read in those messages. I learnt that Magodo is the headquarters of promiscuity by married women. For years, people have discussed this issue in hush-hush tones. One of the netizens described how a married woman in Magodo, a member of the church he attends, began asking him out. The woman was an accomplished and regarded person in the church, but young boys are her major weakness. “She would include me in all the committees formed in the church, so she will use the opportunity to ask for meetings in private areas. From confessions and experiences, married women’s sexual rascality is no longer a hidden agenda.”
Regrettable is the fact that most of these women who cheat on their husbands still live with them pretentiously even as they raise other men’s children.
A touching story was told about a man in the Amuwo-Festac axis who unknowingly raised the children of other men almost 30 years because of his wife’s promiscuity. Johnson Paulus, a rich businessman, was engaged in import and export trade. He started from nothing and built an empire. Whenever Paulus traveled out of the country, he left his business for the senior apprentice named Pius, who had lived up to expectation to manage. Pius would go to Madam every day to account for the day’s business and submit the inventory. On a certain day, there was a fracas in the market which forced shops to close early. Pius came home unannounced to perform the usual ritual, only to see madam in an uncompromising state with her young boo. He was shocked at such a sight but kept mute. Shortly, Oga returned from his trip. Afraid that her cheating news might get to the ears of her husband, madam deliberately stole some money from her husband and accused Pius of the theft. Oga involved the police who arrested the innocent boy and detained him for six weeks amid torture. Yet, he insisted on his innocence. On a certain day, content creators were seen around the police station. Pius reported his case to them and the content people invited the boss who was still angry. Pius then let the cat out of the bag. Oga became more infuriated because his lovely wife was accused of sexual misconduct. The young content pacified him with a plan on how to catch the woman in the act. He agreed. They all planned another fake trip but hid the man in the Boys’ Quarters without madam’s knowledge. They also planted cameras in the house and compound. From his hideout, Johnson Paulus watched his wife on TV camera spread her legs and give her boo some styles she had never given him as a husband. He could not believe his eyes, and could not also hold back his anger. He stormed out of the hideout, broke into his home and gave his wife the beating of her life and sent her packing immediately. The young boo ran away for his dear life. Next, Oga moved his four children for a DNA test and the shock was more intense. The results showed that he was not the father of all his graduate and undergraduate children. This was a marriage that had lasted over 30 years. He had raised other men’s children through an adulterous wife all these years. The situation was bad. Marriage broke down completely, the children were shattered and the once beautiful home abruptly came to an end. Oga ended up in the psychiatric hospital and the grown sons were after their mother’s life, demanding to know their biological father or fathers. The eldest daughter who was about getting married rallied her siblings together and all went back to the man they called father all their lives. He received them, but the bond had been weakened by the revelation, especially as the news was spread in the community.
Another case played out at the American Embassy where a man had returned to complete the process of taking his lovely family to the US. From tests demanded by the embassy, it was discovered that the man was not the biological father of the four children. A situation that led him to start beating his wife right at the embassy until she lost one tooth.
In the same vein, in Magodo area another shocking story was told about a married woman who allegedly fought her younger boyfriend’s lover. The married woman and Isaac had been in a long love tango before the scale fell off Isaac’s eyes, though he had enjoyed a lavishly furnished apartment and a Toyota Highlander 2012 model, courtesy of his sugar mummy.
Madam used to drop her kids off school and then head to his place for exciting sexual adventures. On a certain day, madam visited and saw a much younger girl. She suspected foul play and flew into a rage. She became physical with the girl, but the girl stood up to her. It took the intervention of neighbours to bring the situation under control. Isaac took sides with her younger lover. He also reminded his sugar mummy of their video sex romp and told her openly, “I am tired of washing an old woman’s plate.”
Of course Madam knew the resultant effect of a leaked sex video as a mother and wife as well as the larger community. She left in shame while ranting and reminding Isaac of the juicy pecks he enjoyed when the going was good.
It is to be noted that the aforementioned areas are populated with importers and exporters who travel always. They can spend three to four months outside their home. The result of that long stay from home is more money and material comfort while the woman is sex-starved. Others are women whose husband marry and keep here while working on their travel documents which takes donkey years. Some women had lived alone as married singles for as long as eight or 10 years, waiting for their husbands to get the travel documents ready. Some agree with their women to live in Nigeria permanently and raise the children while they visit from their US or Europe base once or twice in three to five years. These women are left in a spacious apartment all alone. There are also men who send their young families abroad and stay alone here in Nigeria. Certainly, there is no way most of those lonely women will not be found guilty of sexual immoralities. Mind you, their children are not their husbands. They need the warmth of their men in the wee hours of the night.
Well, I am still not an advocate of promiscuity, but sex is one of the physiological needs of a man. Therefore, what are these married lonely women expected to do? Agreed some women had held back and turned down temptations, respected the matrimonial vows and still standing. A cheating mind will always cheat while a non-cheating mind will not, no matter what happens and the area where she lives. Do not forget that body chemistry differs. That is the reason some married women who cannot endure sexual feelings look for an immediate solution.
Presently, with the change in lifestyles, distant marriages and other reasons, single-married women seek comfort and sexual satisfaction in the arms of available men.
Dear women, you that are enjoying wealth and luxury from rich men who reside in foreign countries, behave yourself and close those legs. You cannot have your cake and eat it. Women who enjoy regular sex might not live in comfort like you.
To the men, create something smarter instead of making your wife a lonely married single woman.
