Women and sexual hang-ups?

Has anyone bothered to find out why most give their men sexual hang-ups? A man would be ready and heavy to download but his woman kills that joy with hang-up.

Is it proper that after walking down the aisle, work together and raise children to enviable heights; one party decides to violate the sealed agreement? This agreement ab initio has the approval of God Almighty, families and confirmed by NAFDAC as the case may be. What most women do not understand in the journey of marriage and other relationships is that once bride price is paid, marital vows exchanged, both families nod their head in agreement, from that moment; the lady becomes emotionally and spiritually owned by her man till death do them part. It also becomes the responsibility of the man to love, care, increase and multiply with his bride. To love and care also encompasses sexual activity in the other room. So, why would his woman give him sexual hang up?
Sex is an ingredient of marriage. Both the men and women should enjoy sex till death do them part no matter the age. Most middle-aged women think they have produced children and therefore should retire and become the television in the other room. Barely a year ago, it was for poor understanding and communication that Pa Gabriel Ahuwa 84, allegedly killed his 75-year-old wife because of sexual hang up in Edo state. Most people kept asking what an 84-year-old man needs sex for at his age. Well, I might not have the answer, but Pa Ahuwa’s wicked action has told how important sex is in a union. Researchers and sex therapists have all carried out different studies which proved that the end point from a man during oil rig exploration is very nutritious for the body and soul. Some says it is a soul rendering music for the mind, body and makes a woman glow. Others say it fights oxidants that are not good for the body while some still believe it gives a woman a very sound sleep. With all these advantages, it means women are not reading enough to understand the advantage of sex.
Why then are most women especially middle-aged full of excuses when action is about to take place in the other room? Why let the men stretch out and come down in pains? Most of these women wear excuses like clothes and finally give hang ups. If they are not feeling a bit under the weather, they are tired and want to rest a bit of are fasting as recommended by their Daddy GO. The commonest type of hang-up is ‘I am not in the mood’ which turns down the appetite of their men. Why?
Relatively and interestingly, once a woman is above 50, her sexual urge seems to depreciate with body chemistry which differs in women. While men are ready to get hot and heavy as their own nature allows, to some women, sex is not it at all. I also would not crucify them because a lot goes with health challenges for women especially with menopausal age. The changes from estrogen to testosterone can lead to painful sex according to Dr. Batur of Health Essentials and that is one of the reasons why they shy away from the oil rig. Again, some have expressed severe pains during hormonal changes between breastfeeding period and menopausal age which is like a neon sign saying that something is really wrong somewhere. It goes with muscles, and age as some experience natural dryness and other health challenges. The menopausal age is really challenging to different bodies, taste and perception; even though it is a phase, it could be overcome through love and hit it hard with the men in the other room.
Remarkably, one also would not rule out emotional feelings of the women. When her happiness is always punctured out of fighting, quarrelling, abusive languages. She can never be in the mood for sex. Her family cannot be dragged to the mud in the daytime only to become a lover in the wee hours of the night. She would resist that urge because she has been disconnected emotionally.
It would be interesting to find out the last time a couple had long heart-to-heart conversation, a genuine romantic discussion, butterflies-in-the-stomach exchange which leads to romantic mood and subsequent sex. If they live like roommates in the same house; sex will be awkward and unappealing to the woman in this situation.
Regrettably, erectile dysfunction, infertility and vaginal dryness also drive women away from enjoying sexual relationship with their partners. Worthy of note is the fact that some women who have given birth to grown children without health challenges think they do not need that over burden ‘thing’ called sex. No madam, please you need it. While some become so religiously fanatical as if having and enjoying sex is a sin, or probably their Daddy G O is watching and comparing their spiritual face with their sexual performance and reactions. Don’t forget women that you are in charge of your body, husband and privacy. Some stop the shy and play smart. Stop hiding your sexual enjoyment. Moan when you need to, cry or scream out; your children who you are hiding from will enjoy theirs at their time. You might even think, they do not know; with the social media, I tell you they are sharper, smarter and more knowledgeable than you parents in such focusses. A junior student in one of the Federal Government colleges told his classmates how he heard some moaning and groaning from his parent’s room one early morning when he was coming out from the rest room. At first, he thought they were fighting and stood by the door to eavesdrop, only to realize that Daddy was chopping mummy. He did not discuss with his parents but his school mates knew.
Again, when a couple have financial struggle, children welfare, religious differences, relatives’ brouhaha etc; these are various challenges that can turn down libidos. It is in this mien that most women naively ignore their husbands completely and transfer all the love to their children.

Stella Sholeye, a realtor and new excited mother woke up and showered her 3-months old son with all loving and pet names; prayed fervently for him, threw him all round, and finally called him ‘my world’. Her husband Tayo, a lawyer became jealous over his wife’s praises for her son and asked her, why cann’t you appreciate me a little the way you just did for your son? In pain, he said “Do not forget, you saw me first before your son. It is through me that you became a mother, I deserve a little praise, Stella. Moody wife had no genuine answer but said, you are already grown, this is a new life that needs to be guided spiritually. And that is how it starts; mothers unknowingly pay less attention to their husbands needs and it graduates to running away from sex. Women, please note that from today your husband needs all the love, care and attention and hot sex to keep him emotionally and mentally alert.

Funny enough, I heard an ordained Knight of the Catholic church, a grown woman who is addressed as a lady ask during a women seminar, should I be having sex even as a grandmother? Her priest told her ‘Y es, Lady Nelson, you will keep running your show while your children run theirs. Priest also asked her how do you want your husband to handle his sexual urge; she said he can control himself too, the husband Sir Nelson screamed out to the hearing of the priest, I need my mumu-button to be pressed well; if you are tired, I will sort myself outside our matrimonial home.
Truth be told, starving one partner especially the man can cause a cold world-war which only the victims can explain. Sexual denial can cause a huge internal unexplainable strife between a couple. At such times, a woman greets her husband and he responds poorly, and both understands the reason for the deprived response. Then again, most women think that good attitude, nice meals, wonderful moral conducts can take the place of oil -rig exploration, I say no to that because each has its function to play.

Dearest men and husbands. Have you bothered to find out why your sweet heart of yester-years is giving you sexual hang ups. Have you bothered to find out what melts your woman into your arms? What sweet memories of you can she hold firm and respect? What can she remember about you as her husband and butterflies run through her belly? In all these open and genuine communication heals most of these wounds. It also drives away sexual hang-ups.