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Right now, the bug of infidelity is everywhere, seriously creeping into many homes. The monster is biting much harder than anyone can ever imagine, with the womenfolk often fingered. 
For whatever regrettable reason, many ladies in this social media generation – unlike the golden-age wives and mothers – are increasingly finding favour in keeping side male lovers. This is becoming a new order. Ask some men, they will tell you they are battling to keep their wives.
But the question is this: When today’s generation of women adopt wrong attitude to their marriage, what sort of torch will they pass to their children?
Ask many who know, they will tell you that nowadays, most women are deeply engaging themselves in incessant exchange of night calls, chats, messages, nude pictures and video-calls. They are guilty of this. Evidence of this is often trending among the internet- generation crop of young wives and their side guys.
Recently, a certain Chukuneye (not his real name) from Delta State, told his experience with his wife’s involvement with her side guy.
“Lately,” he said, “I noticed that my banker wife was receiving late night calls, often speaking in low tone. When I confronted her, she responded saying that the fellow on their opposite end was a customer who was coming to make some deposits early the next day.”
Adimchinobi said he believed her, even though he was not convinced she was telling the truth. He said as smart cats both of them pretended to be. Then for some time, his wife stopped receiving calls at night, but later she resumed the act again. He said he kept his future plans intact.
Then he said one day he ceased his wife’s phone and rushed to a technician who opened her Cloud 9 for him to read all messages and videos it held. He said what he saw was like a scale that fell off his eyes.
“What! Under my own roof,” he said he screamed,” wondering at the content of the messages from her wife’s supposed customer.
He said one of message read: “What are you doing with that old man who does not deserve you? How much does he drop daily for you and the kids? I am here for you and will take better care of you if you go with me.”
Continuing he said the message further read: “Only God knows how you suffer on your fat husband’s bed because he does not look sexy; I can run things, de show styles. Take a long walk and leave that your papa husband.”
Adimchinobi said he could not believe for how long he had shared his wife with another man. He recalled he had fought his wife’s unfaithfulness in their five year union, leading to their parting ways till date.
He also recalled that the same young hunk who deceived his wife, later made her life miserable as both of them parted ways in no distant time. And today, she has become a cheap bowl for the village spit, abandoned and full of regret.
Looking at what the woman did, some people would guess a big butterfly is already turning in her stomach right now.
But some people might prefer to ask whether the men are better. They wonder if men are not the headquarters of marital infidelity and unfaithfulness.
I am not an advocate of marital irresponsibility. But I would prefer men and women maintain their different lanes.
Now, look at this. Women who compete with their men over their radical sexual escaped might be getting it all wrong. They need to be reminded of the import of a certain wise crack: “When a woman hits the road much earlier in the morning than her husband, the untoward awaiting her husband might consume her.” That holds deep meaning for everyone.
Now, reflect over this. If a faith permits a man to marry four wives, why did the oracle not permit women to be in four different marriages at the same time? Let my contenders figure out that with the law makers.
But regrettably, when the cheating music starts to blast in a marriage, if not nipped in the bud, it will progressively hit its crescendo. When it does, often time, it is the wife that will turn out the looser.
For some women, this notion of “Don’t I have the right to keep my own friends especially my colleagues and classmates,” is very confusing at times.
In those days, mothers always drilled it into their daughters’ heads that boys and girls do not keep company. But with civilisation, things are changing. However, only a few male-female relationships have survived where the angel feared to thread.
Now, as life and time evolve, many people becoming increasingly more aware that for young wives to sustain in their marriages, they must wear the armour of God and resist the evil of staring at the other man romantically.
Now, also consider this. If some women are not tasting other men, would they be suggesting that their husbands do not satisfy them enough? Or that they are not good in bed? The reason this crops up is simple. Today’s internet and Instagram young wives are eating porridge outside their matrimonial homes.
At the moment, some women see marriage as a status symbol which confers some immunity on them to do as they please. From their appearance to their utterances, one might not differentiate between them and the single girls out there. How I wish they will fast realise that there is absolutely nothing outside there to cheer.
Recently, I encountered a very young couple who were challenged by the illness of their kid. I had actually gone to support them with a publishable story to solicit assistance for their ailing daughter. After a moment chat, I reasoned that the child was not the major problem the couple had, but their waning love and relationship. While intervening, I tried to convince the young woman to preserve in her marriage, work out her salvation and be the best she could be. In the course of the engagement, I figured out that the lady had been keeping up with other men; her husband gave the hint, even as they were living together. I sensed that boys out there were wooing and encouraging her to walk away from her marriage. It showed in her uninterrupted phone call engagements.
Honestly, I felt for the lady’s husband. His wife did not want to listen to any counsel for her to make-up with him. She was keen on abandoning her ailing child for the warm embrace of someone out there. I later laboured at getting her to understand that it is not green out there, but she sounded made up.
Now, also consider this scenario. Another woman, Mrs. Idiong (also not her real name) found herself in a mess when she called it quits with her ex.
Here, she tells her story herself. “If I had listened to my instinct, or my mother, I would not have been in the situation I found myself today.
“Paul and I met as young people and hit it up almost immediately.
“While we were dating, I noticed he was not genuine, but I was madly in love with him until I met another lady unexpectedly in his house; we had a bitter fight which led to our break up; we went our separate ways.
“With time, I grew up and became more mature. Then I met Francis my present husband and we later got married. But Francis was not giving me the complete feeling Paul used to give me in our hay day. Paul was a master in the other room.
“Not long after we got married, Paul’s path and mine crossed again. Paul was seriously on me for a re-union. Once he told me: ‘We can be very discreet about it because I still love you.’
“One thing led to another and I foolishly succumbed to his request. We came at it again and it was heavenly. Going forward, my husband meant nothing to me anymore because I was getting what I desired in full.
“During one of those sessions, I admitted to Paul that my husband was not giving me that “turn-me-on” feeling. Guess what! He encouraged me to leave. Paul said: ‘Why waste your life with a one-minute-man when I’m here to give you the stuff?’ These deceitful thoughts emboldened me to pick holes at any move Francis made. And soon, we parted ways unceremoniously.
“The first one-month with Paul was super in all I wanted. Then, after sometime, he hardly took my calls. He began telling me all manner of lies, leaving me full of regrets.”
Fellow women, I can authoritatively tell you to sit tight in your marriages; there is nothing outside another man can give you more than the dignity of a marriage.
Dear women, know it from today that most of those other-room activities you engage in are not hidden from God. Be wise; reset your brain, especially in this New Year. Except your life is threatened, sit tight in your marriage and work out your own salvation. There is nothing out there; most women that tried it had ended with regrets. Not all will tell you the truth!
