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Granted, the sexual urge of woman can depreciate because of changes in body chemistry. As would be expected women show differences in body chemistry, generally dictated by hormonal swings. Whereas men ordinarily are in the ever-ready mode for sex, it is not so for women. That is why some women go into voicemail mode when their men dial the sex number. For such women, sex scares the living daylight out of them. For those that have a health challenge, you cannot reasonably blame for not showing interest in sex. Due to hormonal changes, a woman may find sexual intercourse painful and therefore make her avoid it subsequently, according to Dr. Batur of Health Essentials.
One glaring of hormone induced-induced avoidance of sex is seen in women that have reached menopause, which produces natural dryness in the vaginal area. The challenging realities of the menopausal age manifests in different ways in different women.
Make no mistake about this, sexual intercourse is the oil that lubricates the relationship between a husband and the wife. It acts as fuel that fires the engine of the marriage. This is why it is very important that wives should endeavour to intimately flow with their husbands when it comes to the main focus of interaction in the Other Room. Men who are unjustifiably denied sex have good reason to feel hurt by their wives. Even the bible cautioned wives against wilfully denying their husbands sex.
A man who has gone through work and business stress, hellish traffic to get home should not be denied oil rig exploration.
Now, there are other women who purposely fabricate lies, and manufacture undue justifications just to deny their men of their conjugal rights. How on earth should a woman who was once a side chick that adequately took care of the man with marathon sex when she was outside, worked hard enough to impress him, and after becoming his wife, turns around vomit all manner of excuses, to avoid sex with him? Indeed, what some of these women say are baffling. Such a woman would lay down ‘dos’ and don’ts’ that are simply offensive to the ears of a husband. “I do not want to get pregnant. I do not want the children to notice what we are doing. I do not feel good. I have not forgotten what you said to me yesterday. The bed is making noise.” Come-on ladies!
Stop all the excuses. The bed is not the problem, but you. You as a wife should know the way to the family planning clinic so as not to get pregnant. Who told you that the children would keep vigil to monitor your movement in your bedroom with your husband. Even if they do as young adults, their own time is coming.
Peter Claver Fadipe and his wife Joan were married for 12 years. They had two children aged eight and six. Claver had a practice of coming home early after work, he did not ‘branch’ to relaxation spots to drink beer, take pepper soup while discussing the latest news on the performance of various clubs in European football leagues. It was a habit he learnt when he lived with his uncle who was a pastor. He always did his best to be a good husband to his wife and the best father to their children.
Upon getting home, he and his wife would be happy, smile and joke with each other and the children in the sitting room.
But when they get into their marital room and he reaches for his wife, her response would be a litany of excuses. Recollecting the memory of those times, he said: “I began to wonder what the problem was. I asked her to see a psychologist and a gynecologist as well. She did but it did not stop her excuses.” The mountain of excuses led Claver to seek for transfer to another town and he relocated. There he found new love and got into a sexually fulfilling relationship in his new abode, from where he visited his family occasionally.
The other set of women who kill sexual drive are those who pretend to be in deep sleep when their reach out. Where are the ones who place the babies on their chest or use protruding belly to avoid their men? Where are the ones who use the pains of a new hair-do to obstruct oil rig exploration? The funniest women I have encountered are those who use church activities to dismiss their men and leave them in sexual pain. When women say things like, “Tomorrow is Sunday, I will be on duty in the church. Sunday should be kept holy! Our Pastor has declared one week fasting and praying and we are still on it. Other women would say people are coming to our house for fellowship, I need to wake up early to prepare for them,” I wonder whether they understand that they are creating opportunity for the devil to tempt their husbands.
At this point I have to let some of these women know that church does not give husband to anyone. When such unhealthy excuses become the order of the day, who do they want the men to turn to? A side chick? If the man resorts to a side chick, know it that you drove him into the warm, welcoming, full breast embrace of the side chick plus the tight grip of her legs around his waist. Do be sure that she won’t release him back to you. Your silly excuses drove him away. It was your stupid attitude of frustrating your own marital relationship that opened the door for the side chick and like water that must always find its level, the man went out to look for comfort. During mourning period for a late African president, his widow and First Lady confessed that he enjoyed having early morning sex with her. If the wife did not open up, would you have known?
In the same vein, a video of a seasoned old pastor in the United States also trended in 2020 where he was having a good time vacuum-cleaning his wife.
Again, these other group of women whose regular flimsy excuses include “I am tired, is sex food? after all you did one last week, I am not in the mood, you are too heavy and all those monotonous litanies, you are simply on your own. Those should not be an excuse. When the roll is called up yonder, you should be there and stop punishing your man.
To the men who are easily aroused, know that women are not firewood, they need you superbly in the areas meant for men. When you do your bit, your woman would never run away from you, his man. Therefore men, sit up and do the needful. I challenge you when you are upright and responsible as a husband should, she would be the one that will switch off the light by herself. She knows how to seduce her man. Her man needs no explanation; he will jump into action and both will climax at Cloud seven.
Again, when a woman tells her man to go take his bathe, brush and use perfume, it is a gentle reminder that she has plans for him. Other acceptable languages of the show include increase the fan, let the air-conditioner rotate towards me, lay the bed very well. When women are in good mood, they will not watch late movie in the sitting room, she would rather watch it with her husband in the other room.
In the days when just one television in the sitting room serves the whole family, aggrieved women glue themselves to late night movies to stay away from their husbands. I have not forgotten my roommate Iyabo who told us how her aunty would sit in the sitting room into the wee hours of the night. When she suspects her husband had slept off, she would tiptoe into the room and quietly wrap herself up with a duvet close to the wall and pretend she is half dead.On a regular day when a woman wants to be there, some would tell their men “Do what you want to do let me sleep.” These are the words that confirm something has really happened but not enjoyable oil rig exploration.
Dear ladies, sexual activities have the approval of God as written in the holy book. The bible charged men and women to increase and multiply, and also that none should deny each other of sexual pleasures. Both men and woman, do your bit and see how oil-rig will take place without hassles. When the hand holds the spoon, the mouth felicitates because of the step of action. A word is enough for the wise.
