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In less than 24 hours, December 1 will roll in, to usher in the Yuletide season. The one month period is filled with excitement and pleasurably rolls the year away.
Yuletide comes with big, memorable celebrations, ranging from weddings, extended family reunions, chieftaincy installations to launching of community projects.
Spouses should not allow any form of strong disagreement to spoil the gaiety of the Yuletide season. Let all lovers of good see this season as a fresh new wine in a new bottle. For once, can people just put their challenges behind and embrace the fresh air, free spirit and love. Couples should be able to enjoy the season, no matter the bad economic situation.
A fundamental fact is that no marriage can claim to be perfect. What is simply needed is that the couple should agree to turn the situation around, no matter the challenges involved. Whatever may be the issue people are going through, has anyone taken pains to find out why celebrated, beautiful romantic unions break down within a short time? A litany of unresolved issues were involved.
In this year’s Yuletide, couples should not let it happen. Otherwise, the moment love tango dwindles, its natural replacement will include acrimony, bitterness, hatred and anger. But a message of sexual fantasy is here to turn things around.
Presently, has anyone bothered to study why some underlying issues defy all manner of pleas which affect the sexual pleasure of a couple? Well, as far as life subsists, marital challenges can never end. They will always be there. The difference in most cases is how they are handled. This season, try and avoid those issues that raise dust in your home. All unnecessary Christmas demands that aggravate some men could be managed carefully and responsibly, so as not to destroy the beauty of the sexual romp.
Sisters, if the year did not turn out as planned, go ahead and enjoy your man in the other room. Be the best couple and refuse to bow to pressure. Go ahead and enjoy your sexual relationship in the season.
The moment spouses begin to avoid sex, it could lead to breakdown of the union. But most couples who understand the tempo of marriage should borrow a leaf from Charly Boy, the Area Father, whose marriage to Lady Diana has hit 41 solid years. Not one complaint has come from either himself or his wife. When he made a post, netizens congratulated him. Of the many comments from netizens, one observation stood out. The particular fellow wrote: “Charly Boy is the only Nigerian I can take marriage advice from; no other person.”
While trying to keep within the rules and enjoy the best of the season, one needs to checkmate some of the factors that cause issues between couples. The first reason is poor communication strategy, personal power, marriage autonomy and financial strength. Others include pretense, infidelity, lies and general bad conduct. In the African context, one might not also rule out the possibilities of poor sexual conduct, disappointments, relatives and finances. These are very crucial issues that when not handled with care become a case study for a couple. When a man is denied his due rights especially in the night, the next morning, his face would be very hard and he would not respond to greetings.
It is also very important to understand the fact that there is no one specific way for couples to navigate conflicts. Each comes at its time, mood and environment because the gap between hope and reality is the killer. But I plead with couples to refrain from it during this beautiful Christmas season and enjoy their union.
Interestingly, couples know that sex is a very important weapon in relationships. Now, the season is willing to entertain all, I plead with all to make the great use of the opportunity.
Couples’ disagreements come in the territory of relationships, but when the centre can no longer hold, when both begin to fall apart to find comfort in some other ways, let both remember that this season is special and should be treated specially. No matter how young the spouses are, they can use sex to settle themselves. Between a man and his woman who are consenting adults, who have agreed to spend the rest of their lives together, the free alluring season could help them fulfill destinies. For the women who steal romantically from their husbands, yes, it happens but control that kind of romance. If discovered, use sex as an icing on the cake and blind his eyes from such discoveries to avoid quarrel. While some people are naturally shy in talking, the season gives you enough reason not to hide your feelings again. Blow out hot in the other room, it is a season of merry.
Some approach marriage angles with a lot of pretense, hidden facts and tricks. The bug of hidden affairs has bitten both men and women and has led to destruction. So many women have been caught in this act and it did not go down well.
Interestingly, there is no man or woman who enjoys poor treatment from his or her partner. Those who think friends out there are better than their spouses, it has led to so many unhealthy and untrustworthy relationships. Adewale Malachy was such a busy bee at work. He travelled quite often to supervise sister companies and audit them. His wife, Wura, found consolation at the gym which she visited daily before resuming in her logistics business. On one resting session, another man who was a member of the gym greeted her with a smile and tried to talk with her. They exchanged contacts and a relationship took off almost immediately. Couples, no matter what, please create time for yourselves and enjoy the journey together, especially this season. Sex should be part of that enjoyment.
Again, sex is one of the most likely unexpressed issues in life because bringing it up during discussions can make couples self-conscious, less so when both get under the bedsheet. Meanwhile, sex is about losing self-consciousness. One spouse might want more action, while the other wants less or both might be at the same frequency. But there is a need for regular sex in a relationship, especially as the joyous season is here.
Well again, studies have also shown that there is a social interaction habit which couples must explore at all times. There are also annoying idiosyncrasies that are bearable, even endearing while staying together; sex can reduce all these tempos.
For those men who hide under ‘I lost my job’ and decide to sit at home, it is never acceptable in African culture that men sit at home and expect heaven to fall in provision. This seasonal sex might not be for you. There is no woman who likes a non-performing man, be it in finance or physical action. No woman enjoys a lazy bone, arrogant fellow, fraudster or pure irresponsible man around her. So, while we preach the message of sexual enjoyment, let all men who God has created to be heads continue to be heads in all areas of their lives. Bad conduct is not acceptable. Now, for the sexual season, I will liken it to a particular Engineering lecturer in one of the universities. Dr. Peter (not real name) watched the Nigeria/Brazil Olympic football final match years ago. The tournament was so tense, but Nigeria surprisingly won against Brazil, where the likes of frontline Bebeto featured. The next morning was an examination.
Apparently, male engineering students watched that late soccer game with their books in their hands which they could not read as expected. As they filed out for the examination, Dr. Peter, in that excitement of Nigeria winning, arranged his students and announced to them to continue the winning game in the examination hall because he was very happy. “I will give you all 15 minutes to do whatever you like because I am happy that Nigeria won the game.” Smart students cheated seriously because Dr. Peter was a happy man.
Dear married people, be in the good mood with sex in the season just like Dr. Peter was. That mood will allow you to do unimaginable things with sex.
