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It is no news that most women dress to be admired by men while expecting their love advances. This is the reason why some ladies get involved with near- suicide attempts at beauty parlours to achieve their desired looks. They do all forms of cosmetic surgeries, maintenance and incur huge financial expenditures just to get someone’s attention.
But then, if the men are not secretly enjoying and patronising women’s daring moves, the women would not be taking the risk of their lives – just to please a fellow human being.
The truth that must be told is that a well-conducted cosmetic surgery initially gives a standing-ovation look. But, what happens afterwards? Perhaps, that depends on one’s body chemistry.
I stumbled on a recent photo online that drew tears from my eyes. It made me bold to ask women to build confidence in themselves, and to stop this devilish act of cosmetic surgery just to please a man.
Some of these surgeries women indulge in to hit the polity include facelift, eyelid surgery (blepharoplasty), nose job (rhinoplasty), chin implant, neck lift, laser, Brazilian butt-lift, liposuction and breast enhancement.
Indeed, ladies go through harrowing experiences to achieve good looks for various reasons. The ones who survive flaunt their feat thinking they are winners of some sort.
Modupe Ozolua, a Nigerian-American pioneered plastic surgery and became the CEO of Body Enhancement Ltd in Nigeria.
The moment she introduced the stuff, it raged wild like Harmattan fire. She hit the jackpot immediately and her fame rose like shooting star. There was no stopping her. Whereas she got some tongue lashes, some others including the men applauded her. Her business boomed.
In one of Ozolua’s interviews, she said: “From being the material girl to becoming the humanitarian woman, I am determined not to allow my past glory overshadow my current selfless endeavour. Why should it bother me? To be duly credited as the non-medical personnel who pioneered a highly specialised aspect of Medicine in West Africa? Or be duly credited for putting Nigeria on the global map as a location of plastic surgery at the age of 27. It is an honour, not an insult.”
Now, the question is: “What are the functions of those risky lifestyles? My layman’s knowledge tells me that right from creation, men and women were designed to be in love. Whatever that will make women look for that added beauty, and be attractive to the male folk carries the day.
In the golden era, men went after beautiful women with or without brains. Every woman got married as long as the she was beautiful, though not with cosmetic-surgery type of beauty. But think about that: beauty surgeries are not universally acceptable, not socially desirable, not economically profitable, yet, men encourage and appreciate women who go for it.
So, why do men appreciate and allow it to reign supreme?
According to free thinkers, men are moved by what they see, especially fully-studded Manchester and heavy- backside.
Many men get easily aroused at the sight of those two, and will almost be ready to service that waist immediately. Therefore, blame it on the men whose nature turns 180 degrees the moment their eyes catch a devouring full-moon-prey.
Shockingly, some of these surgeries dangle challenges and death before the women. Yet ladies are deep in it.
Now, recall that on August 16, 2019, the social media went abuzz over the death of an Abuja-based big girl lawyer and business woman from Uyo, Akwa Ibom State, who was going under the knife to reduce body fat. Unfortunately, she bled to death on the surgeon’s table.
At the comment section, a Netizen wrote: “Better be with a man who is okay with your belly fat o…. Na belly fat you get; no bi say you kill person. Don’t go risking your life unnecessarily on wetin no reach do. Every single one of us will get old, wrinkly, and ugly… so why the fuss??”
Another wrote: “It is body shaming that needs to be stopped as well as a shoddy work. A lot of these cosmetics surgeries in Nigeria are being done by unqualified and inexperienced people. Do your research before any procedure. Ask questions; be sure they can handle any emergencies. Make sure they run all your blood work to be sure of possible medical conditions that may lead to complications.”
Shockingly, while wailers for the young lawyer were busy, another wrote: “This is not stopping me, unless I cannot afford it; people die every day and certainly, something must kill a man.”
With these statements, one, therefore, agrees that the men are secretly behind the risks and some unknown deaths of women through during cosmetic surgeries – all because they want to please.
Next question is where is the self-love as human beings? Self-love is almost hard to understand these days.
It is such a complicated topic partly because it has been hijacked by the capitalist agenda. This evil of cosmetic surgery which is meant to look good, imported by white feminists, has tried to convince us that if we really want to love our bodies completely and wholeheartedly, we have to spend money on expensive procedures. We are being taught that if we undergo plastic surgery for ourselves and for our sense of self-love, and not just to satisfy the male gaze, then that surgery is empowering. But, we cannot forget that one of the plastic surgery industries’ primary objectives is to profit from our need for self-love, rather than helping us to achieve it.
To an extent, people are becoming more aware and outspoken about how they wished they had remained in their natural state.
In an interview with a top-rated female Lagosian, who would not want her name in prints, she responded to the cosmetic surgery idea saying: “I am a victim of cosmetic surgery because my late husband was a ladies’ man.
“I travelled to London and cried out to a few of my friends about my husband’s extra-marital affairs with much younger ladies. After that visit, one quickly convinced me, fixed, and booked me for a tummy tuck to look more attractive to my husband. My friends told me: ‘We have all done it before, and within 40-minutes, you would be wheeled out of the theatre. Three hours later, I was still in the theatre and was later brought out after much battle by the team of medical doctors. This experience has been over 20 years; but I have not been myself since then.”
She then illustrated it better and said: “You know when you cut a rope and join it back, it will never give that smooth flow in its original state.”
Big Madam is not alone in this saga as others are throwing light on how they regret such action especially why they should have ignored social media trends.
In a notable 2022 interview with Vogue, Bella Hadid, one of the world’s most sought-after models, admitted to having a nose job at 14, adding that she now regretted that decision. She wished she had kept the nose of her ancestors.
Interestingly too, most Nigerian celebrities who decided to have a cosmetic surgery allegedly claim they were not chasing trend. Instead, they were looking for happier moments. Ok, I hear you sisters!
But note that it is also good to have some love for yourself because both men and surgeries are fickle and ever-changing. Also remember ladies to hold some love in your heart for the person you are before going in to please your man and the surgery. One can only really love herself by accepting all parts of herself because cosmetic surgery only creates surface differences. The real work has to come from within.
The question again is, which risk does a man take to be admired by a woman? The men who purposely go into fraud do so at their own risk, not to please a woman.
I recall my encounter with a book seller years ago as a newly-pregnant corps member. Probably the vendor recognised my condition and wanted to strengthen my marital bliss. As I sat quietly at the departure wing of the local airport waiting to catch a flight to Jos, Plateau State, this professional book seller came to me make huge sales. He presented a book: “100 things that will make your husband happy,” written by a foreign author. But I asked him to go bring 100 things that will make a wife happy.
Dear Nigerians, truth be told, most men are behind the evil women do to their bodies. They also know that in their weak nature, sweet words will sweep several women off their feet with. They may not be strong-willed to reject their suggestions.
I’m on bended knees begging. Men stop hitting up the love polity. Stop seeing or making real women look fake and less beings. Once a lady did not speak “phonetics” she does not belong. If her waistline is not like that of the Destiny Etiko’s of this world, what happens?
Well, someone like Mrs. Patience Goodluck Jonathan says it all. Believe what you want to believe about her, but her name is already written in Nigeria’s First Ladies’ Hall of Fames. For six good years, while the technocrats who were the movers and shakers, with slender, slim, pointed nose, and charisma made news, she too did.
Men, kindly appreciate your woman. Every woman must not be Agbani Darego who was Miss World 2001 or Oluchi, Onweagba Orlandi, who is a Nigerian-New York based super model.
