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The importance of good sexual communication skills between couples cannot be overemphasized.
There is also a growing need to utilize educative methods of constructive sex enlightenment between parents and their children. Recently, the Intimacy Masters recently held the Sex Conference at the Ballroom Oriental Hotel, Lekki, Lagos, themed Embracing Sexual Knowledge, Wellness, and Empowerment,’ in order to create awareness and disseminate concrete information to people on sex education.
Dedicated Sexual Assault Referral practitioner and Founder of the Intimacy Masters, Jessica Samson explained that sex education is a subject area which many individuals tend to shy away from. She stated that the Sex Conference was targeted at Couples, Parents, Eligible Singles, Guardians and Counselors, and Inspiring Sex Educators, aiming to correct common misconceptions, and offer proper guidance on sexual health. “The whole idea is to also bring awareness to the people on conversations like this.
A lot of times we go for conferences on health, finance, well-being and mental health. But you hardly find conversations as direct as sex and that was how the idea was born – so that people can be well informed in their decisions, and parents can talk to their children in the best manner without using triggering messages,” she said. Samson noted that the theme for the conference ‘Sexual Wellness, Knowledge and Empowerment,’ was carefully curated. She explained that sexual activity is not all about sexual intercourse, but it extends to sexual hygiene and other activities too: “When it comes to sexual health, we are talking about reproduction, sexual identity.
We are talking about your mental state in how you approach sex, and intimacy,” Samson revealed that a lot of planning had gone into ensuring that the conference was actualized, adding that the conversation would not be stopping at the end of the conference, and there were plans to further expand the initiative: “We are looking forward to having more conversations like this. Moving on, we intend to keep creating more awareness in the form of conferences, every other year.
We have started on a very high standard which we intend to maintain. We are open to collaborations and partnerships in the future, where national agencies can be a part of our mission,’ She spoke on her new book titled ‘The Outer Course’, which is her third written book, but first official publication.
She lamented that there is insufficient awareness on the term ‘outercourse’ and how it is applicable in marriages, and her book helped to shed more light: “’The Outer Course’ will be my first official publication to the world. A lot of people are focused on intercourse, without understanding that there’s a term like ‘outercourse’ – it was not born by me, but people do not know that this word exists,” “The word ‘outercourse’ exists, and if couples can start understanding the idea behind it most marriages will enjoy sexual bliss, and this is why we are here and I hope that the book will have a positive influence on marriages,” she added.
Samson further spoke n the issue of consent and boundaries in relationships. She noted that it was important to always respect individual’s opinions and perspectives: “On consent and boundaries; We must first of all understand and accept that there is a conversation that needs to hold regarding this subject. People need to know that there is such a thing as preserving yourself, keeping yourself, understanding that all actions have consequences” “A lot of parents do not teach their children about consequences, body protection, body preservation, awareness and exposure. You find even couples, who do not believe consent; this needs to be stopped. It is important for people to respect boundaries and consent, so that we can live in an acceptable sexual environment,”
