I felt I was losing my grip with my wife — Actor Etim-Effiong on marriage to Toyosi

By Seyi Babalola

Nollywood actor, Daniel Etim-Effiong has opened up on his marriage to his wife, Toyosi.

In a viral video, the movie actor described how difficult it was for him to deal with an assertive wife like Toyosi.

According to Etim-Effiong, he was not accustomed to others having their say, and having an assertive wife made him feel like he was losing his grip on the marriage and not being a man.

The Nollywood star also revealed that there were challenges with having so many women around him and not being able to set limits at the time, which resulted in disagreements with his wife.

“I’m not used to people having a say, sitting with the family to decide things, I never got to be that assertive, so being with a wife that was so assertive was chaotic for me, it was problematic and I felt I was losing my grip on the marriage, I felt I wasn’t being a man, I felt I wasn’t being a husband so it was just messing with my mind.

“Of course, there were issues with women all around me and I didn’t know how to set boundaries at the time as well so I was just like all over the place.

“It was later I started to learn about boundaries that I actually need to draw the line and say it’s not okay that you can call me at funky hours of the night, she might be your friend but it’s not okay, you’re married now, things like that for example. So the issues went on and on, we’d quarrel.”