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By David Maywald
This book was ahead of its time. It was written in 2011 by two conservative mothers, who vigorously push back against feminists and leftists.
“When we frame the debate in feminist lingo, we foster a war between the sexes. It’s time to end the war between the sexes. Men are not the enemy… When someone calls our basic beliefs into question, it takes time to mull it over. Americans aren’t used to hearing that women are the fortunate sex, or that “hooking up” is wrong (and foolish), or that happy lifetime marriages are attainable, or that staying home to care for one’s children is a noble and worthwhile endeavor, or that men in America are the real second-class citizens. But it is possible to shift the paradigm.”
Venker and Schlafly argue that feminists were successful at influencing both liberals and conservatives to conform to feminist messages: “The best definition of feminism was recently offered by Feministing’s Jessica Valenti in the Washington Post: “Feminism is a structural analysis of a world that oppresses women, an ideology based on the notion that patriarchy exists and that it needs to end.” While this negative view of women and their role in society fails to resonate with the majority of American women (most women in America don’t feel oppressed), the feminist elite continue to advance their personal agenda, rather than the agenda of the American people.”
“Feminists don’t want women to want to be with their children; it messes up their plan to change society… For forty years, women on the left have argued for the same tired notion of female independence – that women should be self-supporting, sexually uninhibited, and liberated from the sacrifices and demands of marriage and motherhood… The message is played out in the media ad nauseum, and it has produced a generation of young women who are chronically dissatisfied.”
“Married couples no longer think of themselves as one unit but as separate entities sharing space, which leads to an obscuring of gender roles and inevitable conflict as each spouse focuses solely on his or her own needs rather than the needs of the marriage. “The confusion over roles is there, as are the legacies of a self-absorbed, me-first, feminist-do-or-die, male-backlash society”
“The mass exodus of mothers from the home over the past thirty years – which was, and continues to be, a main feminist objective – has been devastating… 70 percent of parents with children under age five agree that “having a parent at home is best.” In addition, 63 percent disagree with the idea that children in day care receive “just as good” care and attention as with a stay-at-home parent. Even more alarming is this fact: six in ten Americans rate their generation “fair” or “poor” in raising children… the feminist push to get mothers, particularly mothers of young children, out of the home and into the workforce full-time has been a disastrous social experiment.”
“Feminists have no understanding of what makes men and women tick – turning to them for advice is like seeking advice from a pediatrician because your car won’t start. American women have been receiving guidance from the wrong people. Even those who say they aren’t feminists believe women should be as powerful as men outside the home – that’s what was taught to them by their parents, by their schools and colleges, and by the media. The idea of freeing women from the supposed cultural stereotypes prevails even as feminism itself appears irrelevant.”
”Sequencing” is a term coined by Arlene Ross Cardoza in her book of the same name. When women sequence their lives, or plan for the various seasons of a woman’s life, they make space for both work and family.”
“A study in the Journal of Economic Literature reports that while women perform roughly seventeen more hours of work inside the home, men perform roughly twenty-two more hours outside the home… Many Americans are under the impression that gender role reversal – getting dads more involved at home and moms more involved at work – is always a good thing, but new research demonstrates otherwise… progressive dads had poorer marital quality and rated their family functioning lower than the fathers of couples who took traditional roles.”
F. Carolyn Graglia wrote that “Society has been weakened by its curtailing of women’s domestic role, which contributes substantially – possibly more than any other single activity – to societal health and stability. All indicia of familial well-being demonstrate that our society was a significantly better place for families in the decade before the feminist revival.”
•Maywald, Founder, Celebrating Masculinity
Australia, writes via [email protected]
