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Ever caught a cheating man or a serial cheat without an excuse to just justify his action?
Men always have reasons to cheat. They are very creative when trying to justify their actions, and the reasons they give is often fascinating.
According to their reasons, infidelity is the only logical solution to their relationship problems.
It’s either they blame it on their partner’s behaviour or they find ways to blame others for their own choices. They blame their spouses, friends, boss, work, alcohol or even the women they cheated with but not themselves.
When they are confronted, they try to rationalize and justify their behavior with statements like:
I was unfaithful because the other woman was always there for me.
Every guy wants to have sex with different women, and when the opportunity came, I took it.
If my wife hadn’t gained so much weight, I won’t have cheated on her.
Man is polygamous in nature and can have sex with as many women as he wants.
My job is stressful, and we are always apart.
If I get enough and better sex at home, I wouldn’t need to cheat.
If my wife was nicer to me and more attentive, this won’t have happened.
If she gives me sex whenever and however I want it,I woulodn’t hzvecheated.
The other woman was really hot and I couldn’t just resist her.
Cheating men by their excuses try to live in denial or self-deception by telling themselves internal lies to make their questionable behaviors seem very okay in their own minds. Each self-deception is supported by one or more rationalizations. A cheating man’s denial typically looks very solid and they insist their rationale is sound.
All sorts of reasons can play into a man’s decision to cheat. His choice to be unfaithful is most likely driven by lust and selfishness. His primary consideration is himself alone. He can lie and manipulate as long as he gets what he wants.
He just wants to satisfy his sexual desires with variety of women, it doesn’t matter if his partner is a Beyoncè or a Kim Kardashian, he can even cheat with his house help.
He may be responding to unresolved childhood trauma such as neglect, emotional, physical, sexual abuse etc. In cases like this, his childhood wounds have created attachment or intimacy issues that leaves him unable or unwilling to fully commit to one person.
Immaturity is another reason men cheat. He’s in a supposed committed relationship but can’t stay faithful because all his life he has always never stayed faithful to one partner. Staying sexually committed too to the woman he truly loves becomes a problem.
Alcohol or drugs can affect his decision-making, triggering desires that results in regrettable sexual decisions.
Sex addiction could be another reason as well. He compulsively engages in sexual behaviorus with others. He finds himself just wanting his sexual needs satisfied in whatever way possible and with any body.
Insecurity also makes a man cheat. He may feel as if he is too old, too young, not handsome enough, not rich enough, not endowed enough, not smart enough and he startes cheating.Mid-life crisis can also make a man insecure. To boost his ego, he seeks validation from women other than his partner, using this sextra-curricular spark of interest to feel wanted, desired, and worthy.
He may want to end his current relationship, and instead of just telling his partner that it is over, he purposely cheats on her and indirectly forces her to do the dirty work of calling it quits. He may also want to end his current relationship, but not until he’s gotten a replacement for her. So he starts his next relationship while still in the last one.
An impulsive man can cheat. He may never have even thought about cheating on his partner until an opportunity suddenly presents itself. his cheating partner was just too hot and he couldn’t resist her.
When a man has unrealistic expectations, he is prone to cheating. He feels that his partner should meet his every sexual needs 24/7, regardless of how she feels. When his expectations are not met, he seeks external fulfilment.
Anger and revenge is one of the reasons men cheat. Some men cheat to get revenge. He is angry with his partner, and wants to hurt her too. The infidelity is thrown in her face. The man does not bother to lie or keep his cheating secret, because he wants his partner to know about it.
The truth is that there’s never one reason why men stray, and they will always have creative reasons to justify why they cheat. Faithful men also have reasons to cheat, but they deliberately choose not to because that is not the only option or solution to their relationship problems.
They choose to explore other options like communicating better, being more open and honest, to either work towards improving their relationship, just seeking separation or divorce when it is no longer working than cheating.
Cheating and getting caught ruins your integrity. You can blame everyone else or even alcohol for your lack of self control, but you cheat because you want to cheat, nobody coerced you into it.
