Love not enough to sustain a relationship

By Rita Okoye

Adeyinka Ogunjimi, professionally known as Whykayy, is a Nigerian multi-talented entertainer, actress, rapper, singer, content creator and music producer. A graduate of Management and Computer Science from Wisconsin International University College, Ghana, she has built a diverse career spanning music, acting and digital content creation.

In this interview with Saturday Sun, Whykayy speaks about her career so far in 2026, plans for new music, the challenges of balancing music with content creation, and the lessons she has learnt from love and her past relationships. Enjoy!

We are already in August. How would you rate your career so far this year, and what would you consider your biggest achievement?

It is going well so far. I have not achieved all my goals, but it is looking good. My biggest achievement is personal.

Looking at your journey so far, what are you most grateful for at this stage of your career and personal life?

I am grateful for everything, even if there have been reasons to give up, realising that consistency is the best decision one can make. Something I am grateful for specifically, and I’m seeing the results.

Are you still fully committed to your music career, or has content creation become an equally important part of your creative journey?

In the beginning, I was; in fact, that was what brought me into entertainment, but I realised that I needed to make money even to fund that. It doesn’t mean I’m not committed anymore, but money has to be made. And yes, content creation is equally important to me right now.

Should your fans expect new music from you soon?

Yes, actually I ought to have released one in the last two months, but I got really busy, so yes.

You often share relationship advice and perspectives online. What is the biggest relationship mistake you have personally made, and what did that experience teach you?

That was me thinking that Love is enough to sustain a relationship, but indeed it’s not. Someone once said this to me, and I thought it was harsh, but I’m older and wiser now.

If you had to choose between becoming a highly successful musician and becoming one of Nigeria’s most influential relationship content creators, which path would you choose and why?

Why choose one when I can be both? Don’t make me choose, please. I am versatile for a reason (laughs).

Some of your relationship contents often generate strong reactions online. Have you ever lost a friendship, ended a relationship or missed out on a potential relationship because of something you posted?

No, and it’s because I’m intentional about what I talk about or react to; for instance, there was a controversial issue about a friend. I’m not going to mention it, and I intentionally did not talk about it because even if I may have good intentions, it definitely won’t come out that way. After all, my friend was hurt by the situation.

We don’t talk every day, but friendship exists, and I respect that.

What is the most outrageous or unrealistic relationship advice you have come across on social media?

The one where a woman took her phone and was advising women that they should not love men because men do not want to love. Being pro-human and pro ‘men should have emotions and experience love’ triggered me, and I had to react to it. Everybody should be loved and respected.

Do you think Nigerian women are becoming more demanding, or are Nigerian men simply becoming less willing to meet those expectations?

I won’t put it that way; I’ll say women are now having opportunities to be expressive and say no to the things they do not want to tolerate, because we have always been seen as second-class citizens and even property. Our mothers didn’t have the opportunity, so it looks different now.

What is your personal view on infidelity; do you believe cheating can genuinely be forgiven, or is it a deal-breaker that should bring a relationship to an end?

This is a difficult situation, but I don’t want to say anything until I’m in the situation, and I hope I don’t find myself in that situation.

You speak quite confidently about love and relationships. Is there a relationship red flag you once ignored in your own life that you now wish you had taken more seriously?

Oh yes, loving too hard and overlooking red flags, even though they were right in front of me, thinking I could handle it and that love would conquer everything. I also gave too many chances, even though it was obvious there was not going to be any change.

As a female rapper and content creator, have you ever encountered men who were more attracted to your public image, popularity or social media presence than to who you are away from the spotlight?

Definitely, some men are attracted to the image I have and want to be associated with me for reasons best known to them. Most times, when I meet people, I never talk about my online presence, except they are aware. Most times, when they find out, they are always shocked because my presence online and real life are two different personalities. I am reserved and shy in person.

How do you handle negative comments and criticism on social media?

I’m a human being; truly, it depends on my mood, but I ignore more than I respond.

If you had the opportunity to collaborate with any Nigerian or international rapper, who would you choose and what makes that artiste your ideal collaborator?

Eminem, that guy is something else! Respect to him.

Finally, what advice would you give Peller and Jarvis as they begin their journey as a married couple, particularly given the level of public attention surrounding their relationship?

I’m just going to say they should truly focus on their marriage and ignore what people are saying. I understand that some of those things may get to them, but they need to focus on what works for them in that marriage without third parties.

Nobody needs to know about it as long as it works for them. Most Nigerians are hypocrites.