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Having a bad date comes with the dating terrain. Before you get to meet the one, you may have to go though some bad dates. Even though you may get along with someone through messages, you may find out that the two of you don’t click at all when you finally meet.
This can easily make for an awkward date. During a bad date, you have to stay calm and collected while trying not to make matters worse. If you find yourself in the position of an extremely awkward date, here are some tips to help you through it.
Try to initiate conversation
One of the most awkward times during a date is when no one has anything to say. Those minutes that are spent in silence are completely awkward and they make for a really weird time. If a date is already headed downhill, one thing you can do is try to keep the conversation going. Ask questions or talk a little about yourself, but don’t go overboard. Talk about movies, food, your interests and anything else that you both can relate to and that may spark a decent conversation. Just don’t start looking at your watch.
Stay away from your phone
Even if you know that your date isn’t going anywhere, the last thing you want to do is completely isolate yourself. When a date becomes awkward, don’t pull out your phone and start texting, checking Facebook, or playing a game. Even worse, don’t call your friend or a family member and start a conversation. Though it will probably be hard, try to keep your focus on the date.
Don’t point out the obvious
When a date is going awkwardly, you will both feel it so there is no real need to point out the obvious. This will only make the atmosphere between you two that much worse. Even if you are dying to simply tell him or her how it is, don’t, because they already know. Do your best to stop yourself from blurting out how weird the date is and if possible, give it a chance to turn around on a positive note.
Don’t lead your date on
At the end of the date, the last thing you want to do is propose or accept a second date. If you are just not into your date, don’t make them think you are, because you only are setting yourself up for another bad date. End the date on a good note and suggest just staying friends, or never seeing them again. It’s up to you.
Don’t blame yourself
If a date goes badly, you may be inclined to play the blame game and in the end start pointing the finger at yourself. It takes two to tango and with any date, it’s never just one person’s fault if things don’t go as good as you had hoped. Don’t at all feel bad about a failed date because you learn something from every experience.
Try some humour
Even during worst dates, having a few laughs together can make things a lot better. Lighten up a bit and talk about something funny. You can talk about a crazy and funny experience you’ve had in the past. Laughter is the best medicine, even for an awkward date.
Avoid being flirty with someone else
Even if there’s a hot guy or girl across the room, don’t flirt before your date. Save the flirting sessions for later. There’s nothing embarrassing for a man or woman than seeing their date flirting with someone else. Keep the winks and stares to yourself until your date comes to an end.
Figure out why it’s going badly
Not all dates are doomed if they start off badly. Are you nervous? Is your date nervous too? If you can sense that something is wrong and it’s something that can be easily fixed, it never hurts to just start over. A bad date doesn’t have to go down the drain completely, especially if you know there is a way to turn it around.
Try to find some common ground
Even if you guys aren’t clicking like you hoped, you are bound to have some sort of common ground, or else you wouldn’t have agreed on a date in the first place. Talk about these similarities that you two have and focus on them. This way you can at least avoid silence and your mind isn’t focused on how badly the date is going.
End the date nicely
If all else fails and you are just really uncomfortable with the date, you can just end it early. No matter how bad the date went, you always want to end it nicely. It’s not a good idea to just walk out on your date. Explain the situation, end it, and go on with the rest of your day.
