I paced up and down in agitation, furious that Dennis will come to my House without calling first and taking the liberty to ‘hangout’ with my Mom. What did he hope to achieve? Well he is in for a shocker if he thinks I will just sit back quietly and let him disrupt the fragile peace I have managed to attain in my Home. I do not know how many of you out there are facing pressure from Parents who of course want what is best for you but seem to be more interested in what Society thinks than what you want. Yes, a lot of Parents are guilty of this as a result many have ended up marrying people they are not friends with and cannot stand after marriage. This is one of the major causes of domestic abuse and violence in marriages. In today’s world a lot of people are getting married for the wrong reasons; financial freedom, status, age, the list goes on. Two of the worst reasons are; you are not getting younger, your mates are married with kids. For the ladies, it is, if you don’t marry and have kids now, you may never have them because your child bearing years are numbered.
This has caused many successful ladies to marry men beneath them. Yes I know that sounds condescending but when a highly educated and successful woman ends up with someone that doesn’t have the same intellectual capacity as her, what do you call that? The woman usually is unable to attain the pinnacle of her career or business. There is nothing more frustrating for a woman than a man who has inferiority complex.
This usually results in domestic violence in the Home. I know way too many couples sitting on a time bomb. Have you ever come across a couple where the woman is cultured and polite while the man is brash and uncouth, he can hardly rub two sentences together without putting ‘is’ where ‘was’ is and you wonder, what on earth does she see in him? Then you tell yourself love comes in different shades but this obviously is a gray and dingy shade. Dig a little deeper and you will find that she compromised. Sex tops the list; I hear people get married because the guy or the lady is good in bed. The question is, will you stay in bed 24/7? Will you walk down the aisle because the sex is good? For a few minutes pleasure, will you mortgage your life and possibly suffer the rest of your life if you do not believe in divorce? “Hey Tobs, what are you thinking about now? You’ve been quiet for a while,” Jasmine asked bringing me to the present with a bang, concern itched on her face as she anxiously peeked in my face. I smiled apologetically at Jasmine’s worried face. I think she felt I had gone ballistic after hearing what my Mom said.
“I am alright Jaz, no need to be fussy,” I said with a smile. We had breakfast on the terrace. “Tobs I know you will never raise the subject so I will. I see Dennis coming to the House and having tea with Mom upset you,” Jasmine said a studious expression on her face. My take is both men are sinfully handsome (I rolled my eyes at Jasmine’s choice of words) very successful, articulate seeing how big you are on grammar and I suspect are good in the sack!” Jasmine said in a sexual drawl. “Jasmine!” I exclaimed but not shocked. All these thoughts kept me awake through the night as I tossed and turned all night. “Good morning Miss Tobs,” Debbie my Secretary said as I walked past her to my office the following day not in the best of moods. Why was she grinning stupidly I wondered. I was shocked at the avalanche of pink roses that greeted me and the scent…oh, so heavenly. Every available space in the office was covered with roses. My office looked like a rose garden! There was nowhere to put a foot and then there was this ridiculous life size teddy bear and a giant card that said ‘I am sorry’, no name. Who could this be from? I was almost certain that it was from Rick or Dennis but I didn’t know which one of them sent it. No wonder there were giggles and sly looks as I walked to my office