From Charity Nwakaudu, Abuja
A relationship coach, Dr.Jennifer Oscar Ifeyinwa, has attributed the growing social vices and decadence in the society to failure of family unit system, stressing the need to grow better homes for societal development
Dr. Ifeyinwa stated this in Abuja, at the conferment of Doctor of Philosophy in Leadership and Communication Management (Honoris Causa) on her by the prestigious International Leadership Manpower and Management Development (ILMMD), United Kingdom and Northern Ireland.
She explained that the society would be stable if it is devoid of divorce and failed marriages, insisting that fruitful homes were a yardstick in achieving a better nation.
Dr. Ifeyinwa stressed that good parenting and childcare would go a long way in ensuring a better society that would bring about stability in the country, adding that wisdom was key in ensuring better families and stable society.
“An understanding without love is not enough to make a family stay together. But when there is wisdom and understanding, the family will stay together. This is because the bible said wisdom is principal; first if you have wisdom, you have understanding. Then you have knowledge of God, and you will be able to build a good relationship.
“We should always know that family comes first no matter the amount of work we have to do. Without family, we cannot succeed. Family is everything you need in life. If you succeed in your family, you will succeed in business. But, the problem most people have is that they put their work before their family, when that job or business fails, which family do you run to? So, family is first; it is a priority before any other thing,” she noted.
On the menace of divorce, the 34-year old Delta State born attributed increase in divorce and failed marriages to lack of understanding among couples.
“There is no perfect marriage on earth. Imagine a man from a different background, raised by a different family, and a woman raised by different family, now living under the same roof, there are lots of things to agree and disagree upon. Therefore, couples should seek ways to ensure they settle their differences amicably.
“When parents fail to understand themselves and put differences behind, children are neglected and engaged in social vices. Parents should always keep tabs in the home fronts to keep the families together.
“Without faith it is impossible to please God. Whatever religion you practice, you must believe in it. If we can have Godly marriages and good homes, we would raise responsible children, and the society will become a better place.
“What we suffer today is the outcome of years of children being neglected and abandoned. These children turn out to become violent; they become terrorists in the society because they were neglected.
“I always encourage parents to work together because the Bible said that two good heads are better than one. You will agree with me that the man alone cannot take care of a family, likewise with the woman. So, both parties need to work together.”
She also discouraged the growing interests of young ladies to the practice of “baby mama,” alerting the society to rise against such practice for the sake of value and morals of posterity.
“Young ladies are picking these interests from the things they see on social media. Social media is very good, but, at times, it influences the youths negatively.
“Young girls these days just want to give birth to a man without doing the proper thing, and they start showing off as ‘baby Mama.’ There should be a stop to this practice because our morals are still very important, especially for those children you want to raise. What knowledge do you want to impact on those children and what lifestyle do you want them to emulate? Our goal is to raise Godly children.
“It may be trending but it is not right. The Bible said a man and a woman shall become one, and not a woman raising her children alone as a ‘baby mama,’ so this ‘baby mama’ thing should be stopped.”