It has never been ideal to encourage laziness and idleness among couples. These two flaws denote irresponsibility on the part of men in the marital union or relationship.
It is important to know that the moment a man decides to get into a relationship with a woman, ideally and biblically, he has chosen to carry financial responsibilities. Otherwise, why does the Bible in I Timothy 5:8 say: “If any man does not provide for his own family, he has disowned the faith and is worse than an infidel.” This clearly means that a man should be financially present in the life of his family. This quote also gives women the upper hand to have a comprehensive financial orgasm from the men. If a man could ask for the most exciting part in a relationship from his woman, he should also provide the financial orgasm for the equation to balance. While thinking of the enjoyment of sexual intercourse that is orgasmic; he should also think of the total financial provision that equates the tempo.
To tell how a couple who lives in Germany joggled their bills and sexual life. Marie said, ‘Since my husband Donald and I share our bills 50/50; our sexual life is also based on 50/50. When he needs me to be a woman near him, he pays me for sexual satisfaction. If I have the urge for a website service, I pay him while our bill remains 50/50. Why? “Well from Africa where we came from, a man takes care of his family; otherwise, the fellow is an infidel. Now that the bills are identified, sexual life also changed.”
Now, it should be understood that wherever the enjoyment and sexual exploit takes a man to with his woman, his financial provision should exactly be pegged at the same sexual excitement and satisfaction. Both sexual orgasm and financial orgasm should collide and be on the same radar. Yes, both should work hand in hand.
Some might wonder what is the essence of this piece? Experiences has proved that some women go through terrible difficulties, put their lives on hold or even die from the ignorance of their financially weak men. It is also shocking that these economically weak men are experts in sexual exploits. They are official reckless sperm-donors, who refuse to sit up and confront the challenges of life and are very low in finances. One then asks, how do these men still have strong urge for sex in the wee hours of the night? Again do their women receive them for sexual intercourse? One might be surprised to hear them say, ‘if you don’t have money, it is not a crime.’ So many women even reason alike, yet get pregnant often.
The unfortunate story of how the pregnant wife of Akinbobola Folajimi was rejected by a private hospital in Lagos due non-payment of a deposit of N500,000. This eventually led to her death. Netizens and Dr. Reuben Abati strongly criticized him. Commenting on the incident on Arise Television, Abati blamed Folajimi for not making the necessary financial preparations knowing his wife was expecting a child. He said, it was highly irresponsible of the husband. Folajimi in a viral video posted on social media responded to Abati thus: “Sir, with due respect this is not my first child. When my wife get belle we dey take care of am to the best of my ability and I never come for public or come meet you, make you borrow me money or make I take feed my children.
I saved money, but I didn’t save N500,000.00. I save money for that day, but they asked me for N500k deposit, not full payment. All the money we I go fit gather that day, e no go pass N100,000.00, I don’t know whether it is an offense to live below N500,000.00 because you’re saying it’s the highest irresponsibility because I no get N500,000.00. So, it’s a crime now to be poor in Nigeria.”
With his response, Akinbobola’s problem is poverty of thought content. This is one of the reasons that x-rays the mentality of a financially weak man. He has whole heartedly accepted he is poor with a question ‘Is it a crime to be poor in Nigeria.’ It is not a crime to be poor, but one can work hard to subdue poverty especially as a family man. He belongs to the generation of men who owe school fees for a whole session. Meanwhile, he knows that compulsorily school fees must be paid. But he would not work ahead as a man for school fees to be paid as at when due. He would rather allow his children to be embarrassed out of school before that bill is paid.
Akinbobola’s response shows his mentality as a man and husband, looking at the circumstances surrounding the death of his wife. More annoying is while remembering how he severally serviced her website, vacuum cleaned and balled her into sexual orgasm, then refuse to show the same strength of financial orgasm.
Further analysis points to the fact that gestation period is none whole months. How did Akinbobola and other men who are in this category prepare themselves for the rainy day? Such men close their eyes without seeing their mates’ wives deliver abroad. They pay hospital bills in foreign currencies, buy return tickets etc.
Late Akinbobola’s wife is not alone in this saga. Several women have lost their lives trying to give birth for a man whose mentality has wholeheartedly accepted to be poor. I am personally pained by his mental situation. It is a proof that when other men are struggling to make their families better, you simply accept natural defeat that you are a poor man. Too bad.
This is not to say that rich couples are above death; but so many women have died through various health challenges where financially weak husbands have failed woefully to salvage their situations. The mentality of “Is it a crime to be poor” should be applicable to their sexual arousal as well. When you remember that it is not a crime to be a poor man, also remember that it is not a crime to control that jumping third leg in the trouser.
Surprisingly, when a woman rejects a man with poverty of thought content, she is chastised. Those netizens forget to see the redflags. Instead, they would say that ‘women like money, they are in a transactional marriage.’ The likes of Cosmas Maduka (Coscharis), Obi Iyiegbu (Obi Cubana) started life from one-room apartment, today they have become billionaires who take care of their families.
This scenario also reminded me of a close friend who goes to delivery room with her cheque book. The moment she delivers, she would send someone to the bank so she could pay her bills. At Lagos University Teaching Hospital (LUTH) where she delivered her bouncing baby boy through caesarian section, Patience rejoiced at the birth of her son. When her bill was brought, suddenly, she became sad and her facial expression changed. she murmured “One has a husband who should be glad to pay hospital bill seeing his new born child. This is the third time, it is happening. I will give birth and still pay my hospital bills,” she lamented.
In many other government hospitals, there are several mothers and newborn babies detained for non-payment of delivery bills. These unpaid bills are mostly paid off by some concerned wives of state governors.
There are so many women who are stuck with financially weak men and therefore cannot access proper healthcare. Such men who do not have the financial wherewithal avoid hospital appointments and probably device their own means. Some have taken pregnant women to traditional birth attendants or churches to deliver instead of going to a hospital. The purpose is to avoid paying hospital bills.
Dear women, it is not a wrong thing to marry a financially low man, what is important is how ready is his mentality to work aright and pull himself out of poverty and meet his responsibilities? How willing is he to work hard to earn income to support his family? Women, work hard, earn income because it is very important. The money you earn can also give you financial orgasm which no man is willing to give you.