By Seyi Babalola
Do you know the common mistakes men make when approaching women and how they affect their chances of getting that coveted date?
Getting turned down after summoning the courage to approach a total stranger because she looks good or appealing can be demoralizing and embarrassing.
Rejection often kills our confidence and makes us feel like we’re of lower status or less worthy.
But as you know, not every man who approaches a lady is rejected. Why? Because they understand what to do.
Here are 5 mistakes men make while trying to impress a lady:
1. Tapping her from behind or saying, “Hey there, I’d like to talk to you” are two things women who don’t know you dislike. It feels incredibly simple to approach a woman in the way we desire.
So you know, the key to success in any endeavour is to accomplish what is necessary rather than what is desired.
We want to approach a lady from any posture, but ladies do not want that. To do it correctly, first, make eye contact with her, then approach her from an angle so she can see you approaching before walking up to her.
2. Thinking you need money and good looks.
This is one of the mistakes guys make with women. Yes, appearance is important to women, and money is important if you expect to spend your life together. However, we’re discussing attraction here. Women are significantly more drawn to a man’s personality, charisma, and conduct than his appearance or money.
Being attractive and wealthy will almost surely help you attract women. However, without a lively and engaging vibe, as well as a manly frame, even the most handsome, wealthy men would struggle to maintain a woman’s interest for long.
Having the appropriate personality features can entice ladies like a moth to a flame. They can’t help but feel attracted to you.
3. Your timing is wrong
Here are some examples of inappropriate times to approach a woman; while she is hurrying to work, rushing to complete a task, conversing on the phone, or seeming serious and focused.
Playing nice is tough when our specific aim is blocked. That is how it feels when men approach women when they are engaged in a specific activity.
If you notice or suspect that a lady is truly occupied or involved in an activity, and you believe you can assist her, then approach her. But if you can’t, and she appears so intent on having it done, avoid her.
4. Trying to buy her love and affection.
This is another one that many men engage in. This is usually because men believe that women only like them when they have money.
As previously said, this does not affect the attractiveness of a woman to you. In reality, many women interpret it as supplication.
In this regard, what you are trying to tell her is:“I’m not good enough on my own, so I’m going to buy you a bunch of gifts & take you on extravagant dates.”
It decreases your worth since a woman believes a high-value man can captivate her without all of these expensive things.
If and when you’re in a relationship with her, it’s okay to buy her presents. However, you don’t want to overdo it. Remember that you’re giving her a present because you want to, not to receive something from her.
5. You attempt to flirt at first sight.
To avoid seeming regular and unexpected, don’t approach her with flirty phrases like “Hey baby, hey you look really nice in that dress.”
Using flirtatious language on a lady you approach for the first time portrays you as a jerk. And a jerk is not the inverse of a kind man. This may also prompt a lady to hit you or say something provocative to you.
As a result, avoid doing anything that makes her think you’re just attempting to sleep with her the next minute. Replace any flirtatious phrases with precise, sincere compliments.