Lone sexuality –Masturbation

 

 

In Nigeria, masturbation has been a subject more taboo than interpersonal sex. There were perhaps three main reasons for this.

First – masturbation is the way in which the sexuality of their offspring forces itself on parents attention.

   ple masturbation seems an admission of failure, compared with finding sexual expression in a relationship with another person. This is especially true, whenever sexuality is dominated by concepts of “male conquest “of the female.

Third – acceptance of masturbation means recognising the power of the sex urge – beyond, if need be, both social pretense and human communication.

So the traditional, social, religious, and moral attitude towards masturbation were those of vehement disapproval, reaching even psychotic levels in the late 19th century.

Children and youngsters were terrified with stories that masturbation will bring physical and mental illness. Some were even forced to wear, physical contraptions, designed to prevent the wearer from ever having contact with his genitals and thereby avoid abusing himself.

On the contrary, the modern attitude has the following reasoning or should I say updated reactions.

First, it is now generally recognized that masturbation causes no special physical or mental deterioration. Physically, excessive masturbation can cause prostate gland trouble – but so can excessive intercourse or total abstinence.

Mentally, excessive masturbation may well form a part of some failure to face up to reality – but so can excessive eating. Masturbation is therefore here a sign of failure, not a cause, at most, it reinforces the sense of failure.

Secondly, masturbation is not a cause of difficulty when interpersonal sexual relation begin. There may be fears, about sex, which express themselves in a preference for masturbation. But the cause of this lies in personality disorders, due to childhood experience, bad sexual education, a traumatic incident, or a repressive family atmosphere. The masturbation is not the cause.

Nowadays, masturbation, though still little talked about – is more generally accepted for what it is, part of our normal sexual experience. It has functioned especially before the development of the pills and condom as a way of diverting some of the sexual drive, that otherwise will result in pregnancies and immature partnership commitments.

Secondly masturbation releases acute tension due to unsatisfactory sexual life or the temporary absence of a partner.

Thirdly, masturbation alleviates the sexual loneliness of old age.. Certainly, parents should not try to create guilt feelings, about masturbation in their offspring.

Alright, I have been rambling on ethics of masturbation. Let us now get down to brass tacks, by stating that masturbation means the stimulation of the genitals, other than by intercourse – usually with hands, but sometimes with other parts of the body or with object, and usually with the intension of achieving orgasm. It usually means self – stimulation, but not always. It also includes stimulation of a partner genitals, whether or not the couple also experience sexual intercourse, and whether in heterosexual or homosexual circumstances.

So, its uses range from the first experiments of school children to the mature relation of lovers. But here I am concerned only with those techniques people use in love situations, when there is no one to share sex with, or simply when they choose and experience self stimulation – auto eroticism in this sense of a lone sexual activity, that the term is used in surveys of sexual behavior.

Such masturbation occurs through out society, and masturbation to orgasm is experienced at some time in their lives by about 93% of all men and by 60% of all women.

Some kind of stimulation of the genitals occurs in many infants only a few months old. One survey found that genital play, or rocking to and fro on the genitals, occurred in more than half of infants under one year old. Some, such cases have been reported in which stimulation was even carried to orgasm – though not of course, ejaculation, the youngest, a boy of 5 months and a girl of 3 months.

   More conscious auto eroticism can begin at any age from 5 years on, but for most men it begins sometime between the ages of 9 and 18, with the great majority in the time just after puberty, ie for most, 13 or 14.

For men, with the onset of puberty, masturbation becomes a necessary release of sexual tension, and sperm production, rather than just a pleasant sensation. Masturbation, in fact, provides the first experience of ejaculation for 2/3 of all boys. The average of this is 13.9 years. There after, masturbation is normally the main sexual outlet of early adolescence.

   Those women who masturbste before adulthood tend to start a little earlier than men. But by the age of 20, only 40% have tried masturbation, compared with 92% of all men. Masturbation provides the first orgasm for only just over 2/3 of women.

   Male masturbation frequencies range from once a month or less, to two or three times a day or more. Women on average masturbate much less frequently. The average male frequency, among those who do masturbation is about twice a week at the age of 15. Thereafter, it declines throughout adulthood. With women, it increases up to middle age.

   The importance of masturbation as an outlet varies greatly with age, education level and of course marital status. Masturbation is responsible for between 5 and 10% of the outlet of married men, depending on age. It is mainly accounted for by, temporary absence of the partner, conflicts, or psychological difficulties.

Among single men, masturbation varies from as low as 20%, to as high as 80%. It is highest in the young and the highly educated.

We must also note that there are some people, male and female that will never masturbate in life, reasons sometimes are difficult to pinpoint, could be on moral grounds, the practice is both dabazing and detestable, on religious conviction, irreplaceable with actual physical intercourse and pleasures.

Masturbation is identical with other forms of penis stimulation, in the sequence of changes it produces in the sexual system. However in feeling, intensity and psychology, its orgasm may well seem different to that of intercourse, as well as varying considerably from occasion to occasion.

Techniques of masturbation vary considerably between different people, especially in the part of the penis stimulated, the speed of hand movement, the hardness of touch, and whether stimulation continues after ejaculation.

   Other forms of deliberate self induced orgasm are rare. Only 2 or 3 men in 1,000 are able to suck their penises, due to queer anatomical juxtaposition. Very few men can reach orgasm, by stimulating other parts of their body. Only 3 or 4 men in every 5,000 can achieve orgasm by fantasy alone. But involuntary orgasm, during sleep accompanied by a sexual dream, is fairly common in men, from adolescence on, and this forms a part of the investigative analysis when medical doctors investigate and treat impotence.

   Almost every man experiences wet dreams at some time, and about 2/3 of women. As a source of orgasm in men, it typically varies between 2 and 8% of total outlet, 2 to 3% of women. It tends to happen more frequently when masturbation is the main form of sexual outlet. Always be medically guided.

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